Mary Cacciapaglia

Commentary, Creativity & Chaos

On a more personal level

My week in review this time is on a more personal level. Tuesday, two young fans of Steve came to visit from Germany. They were very polite, excited to meet Steve, in awe of all the movie and model stuff and very chatty. Tobias and Pascal shared with me how the German government was set up, that the German people were still extremely grateful to the people of the United States for liberating them from fascism during WWII and helping with the fall of the Berlin Wall. They also shared how embarrassed they were for the state of our political affairs. I have to say it really brought the reality to my heart. This was not reading the news nor watching a tweet but live – in front of me. I felt embarrassed, not just for me, but for my entire country as well. This is truly how the rest of the world sees us. We are no longer heroes or allies. We are pitied.

Thursday, we had our first essential oils class at the Studio where, in addition to talking about  the health and wellness benefits of the oils, our civil discord came up. Keya shared with me how she was treated rudely by a while customer in Trader Joe’s this week, yes, by some white dude.Gisell spoke of how rude people are driving in the parking lot at the shopping center; (we’ve noticed this aggressiveness too). Deborah spoke of how, on this end of the age spectrum, we thought we were done with activism but alas here we are set back a couple centuries. We needed to smell some lavender after all that.

Steve and I feel compelled to do something positive; however small, but to do something. We are going to join a Huddle to counter the other side’s being as organized as they are. Yesterday, at the Ventura Pier, we dug our heels in the sand. We met some very nice people. It was the first protest I had actually attended since I was 15. I did it. Not really my thing and I am going to stick to the Huddle and send out postcards.

Chatting with people on the other side of the political divide this week, I realize that I will never understand their thought process – if, indeed, I can call it that. Hate it as I do, I admit that we are civilly divided. It is not going to be comfortable for a very long time. Russia has done its nasty job of helping to divide the people of the United States and installing both a Leninist and a puppet-baby-like dictator for him to control (when he’s not having one of his stubborn tantrums).

I believe it was Winston Churchill who said, “Never, never, never give up”.

I love our Declaration, Constitution and Bill of Rights and I will fight for them.

Love trumps hate. We will prevail. Here’s some stories I found this week.

Easy reading – The Declaration of Independence

Some stupidity-Bannon Attacks the Pope

Scariness – The Lynch Mob Came for Me



My late husband, Tony Cacciapaglia and I were married for 12 wonderful years and we wanted to spend what we had hoped to be our senior years together. Five years ago he died from pancreatic cancer. I was devastated.

How does one change direction so suddenly? My whole world went into a nosedive. I had no plans for a life without Tony. I felt abandoned and lost. My adult children lived in Orange County and my brothers lived in Arizona and Texas. Tony was my life.

I traveled a little. I hung out with friends. Pursued my photography and dog training. My biggest mistake was dating. You think dating is awful at 30, try it at 59. I met a series of, to say it directly, losers. My close friends put me on a dating moratorium because it got so bad and then I quit dating altogether.

During the time that I had quit dating, I met Keya Murthy. I had decided to study Reiki because I felt I needed healing and wanted to help others. Keya is a healer and a Reiki Master. What I didn’t know was that she also did Huna healing. Keya helped me first with a Huna healing session that connected me with my tribe and ancestors and lifted my feelings of abandonment. Thereafter, she helped me attain Reiki I and Reiki II. I have practiced Reiki now for 4 years along with my meditation and yoga. Keya’s compassion and soft demeanor sets one at ease from the start. Keya has since become a wonderful friend.

A year and a month after Tony’s passing I met Steve Neill, whom had recently lost his wife of 33 years. Our companionship and love have helped both of us move forward. Life, Love, Family and Friendship is what it is all about.


A Stellar Week for the U.S. Government

This past stellar week for the U.S. Government (January30-Febuary3):

  • Trump conveniently failed to mention his escalating war of words with and threat to send troops to Mexico.

  • A disastrous phone call with the Australian prime minister.

  • Embarrassing behavior at the National Prayer Breakfast, in which he asked attending clergy to pray for improved Celebrity Apprentice ratings

  • Congressional investigations are brewing regarding Russian interference in American elections., which Trump has dismissed, in favor of pursuing a cozier relationship with Vladimir Putin.

  • Federal Judge Stays Trump Travel Order, But Many Visas Already Revoked

I’m sure that I have missed quite a few things….


Comments encouraged.

A Twitter Encounter

I engaged with a young woman on Twitter today who was very fearful.  She believed that there is a “White Race”. From a scientific viewpoint, this is not true nor is it factual. The “Alt Right” is perpetrating this falsehood scaring people that there is some sort of “genocide” of the “white race” going on. We are all on this planet together no matter what our culture, religion or skin color. If we continue to kill ourselves over this lie, there will be no one left to go to Space.

I don’t want to go back to the 12th Century or to the 19th Century.

The Future is the only direction.

“Race is a social concept, not a scientific one. There are no bright lines (that would stand out). If we could compare all the sequenced genomes of everyone on the planet, when we try to apply science o try to sort out these social differences, it all falls Apart.”   ~ Craig Ventor – one of the first to sequence the human genome

There is Only One Race

The Human Race

For More on this subject:

Einstein on Racism

Good Article on how to Stop being Biased

Will the Alt-Right Promote a New Kind of Racist Genetics?

Ahhh, The Next Day

I was very happy to see that I GLOBALLY was not alone in my sentiments. I started a Women’s group on Facebook to continue to support Women’s Rights here in Ventura (think globally, act locally). I am not going quietly just sit down. I have daughters and granddaughters. We have to keep up the Resistence to Tyranny.

Just an Update on January 19th

It’s probably not surprising to anyone that I will not be watching any of the events in DC this weekend. Not the good, not the bad, not even the ugly.

From the entertainment line-up, I cannot imagine a more boring waste of time.
Just stayoungpoperted watching The Young Pope on HBO this week; what a timely show. The main character (the pope) reminds me of our incoming president in many ways except in intelligence. The young pope would win in that arena.


I will continue to monitor the news during the week. I must remember the saying, “think globally and act locally”.

Our pilot at the Studio is coming along very nicely. We are having our last big shoot on Saturday, the “Support Group” scene. It will be very interesting — A great group of talent.

I am renewing my interest in wellness and joined Doterra as a wellness advocate. It’s going to be smelling very good around both the condo and the Studio. As President Obama said, “we’re going to be okay.”



In the Circus Bleachers

For 6 months now I wake up daily to a new circus act. Yesterday I read how they want to get rid of ethical oversight in Congress and even our 4th grade-literate president-elect thought it was a bad idea. Then they had asked Rebecca Ferguson to sing at the inauguration and her condition was to be able to sing “Strange Fruit”. Wow. I haven’t looked at the news for today. I can only hope that they don’t try to top yesterday.

It is going to rain here in Ventura California and I’m sitting here in my cozy little condo. My 12-inch Dobsonian telescope is being delivered today. Don’t you just love it. Who knew ordering a telescope could help with the drought. Seriously, I’m very excited and looking forward to many star parties this year.

Merry Christmas

A lot of water has gone under the bridge since my last post. We have a whole new reality. Watching a video from John Lennon helped me remember that things don’t change much. Hard to believ that we are all the same species at times however, we do need to have compassion for those whose chose not to touch the Monolith. Love and Peace are the most important things in the Universe.  Christ and many other prophets have stated this. How often we forget.

I wish you love and peace throughout this Season and 2017. Merry Christmas and Happy Hanakkah.

Electors – December 19, 2016

Can the Electors really protect the United States?

If only 37 Electors change their vote, Donald Trump WILL NOT be President of the United States.

At this point I really don’t care which qualified statesman takes the office as long as s/he is a qualified statesman.

“The office of President will never fall to the lot of any man who is not in an eminent degree endowed with the requisite qualifications” — Alexander Hamilton, The Federalist Papers : No. 68

Opinion Time: If they do not save us, we are doomed to 4 years of greed, hate and possibly WWIII.

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